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dAMn BUsy LiFE...

2008-04-03T12:09:00.003+08:00

I guess by now, u all should know wut i feel..sooooo tired...tired for being a student..tired for being a husband..tired of being a father..whateva!!

Looking back at the same date, last year..I am enjoying my life as a man with a beautiful wife and a great job..But, at that exact time..am I really happy??..the answer is still the same..I feel tired..and I am not happy..I'm too bz solving peoples problem..work as much as i could and make other people become richer..hehe..(sorry bos!!)..so boring to the extent that i feel like i work my ass off..but the return is soo little..so..I look at myself and think..what did i do wrong?..so I came to the conclusion that I need to further my studies..maybe bcoz i'm only a diploma holder..the opportunity for me to improved myself is too narrow..

Here I come..at this very moment..being a husband, a father and a full time student..am I happy?..hehe..nope.. i don't expect that this answer will appear now..so..I dun make any significant progress..same feeling last year..same feeling now..

But, being a muslim, we alwiz being reminded to believe in faith (Qada' & Qadar)..and I do believe in my faith..Allah knows best..I might not enjoy my life now..but i did enjoy the precious moment of realising that I could further my study..I did really enjoy the wonderful moment knowing that I could leave my stupid client with all their nonsense problem..I did enjoy that and still do..

So..the conclusion is simple..maybe we are asking too much..stop doing that!! be grateful and pray to god for guidance and mercy..InsyaAllah..one day..the final destiny that we are looking for will finally become reachable..at that very moment..will we enjoying it??..YES..YES..and..YES..Amin..

da cHeeR oF mY LiFE..

2008-03-27T12:43:00.003+08:00

Praise to God Al-Mighty.. Alhamdulillah..my long awaited journey had finally ends..On 12th February 2008, at 7.45 a.m. my first child is born..weighing at 3.7 kg, she's emerged from her mother's womb through 'Cesarean'..and of course after lonnnnnnnngggg hours of waiting..28 hours..

Alya Irdina Izzati which means Your Highest Dignity is My Pride (Ketinggian Kehormatanmu, Kemuliaanku)..That's my cute lil gal name..we call her 'Alya'..just past thru one and a half months of life, she had already shows her personality..she love water (bath time), just like her mother..she won't sleep unless someone talk to her until she finally get bored (and cry for sure)..she will scream as loud as she could if somebody try to fold her in napkin..in Malay we call it 'bedung'..and finally..she will open her eyes, 5 minutes before her next milk time..not ever one minute late..

Being a father had surely be my prolong dream..but a responsibility for being a father is not even close to what i ever expected..The first week of being a father, i could barely sleep..normally i will take one or two hours of quick sleep..(nap time) whenever & wherever i could..normally in toilet daa..hehe..surely becoz on the first week, alya will open her eyes every two hours and cry for milk..her mother at that particular moment still weak and recovering from her post-natal wound etc..so..its all depends on alya mighty father to take care of everything..

On the second week..my body start to accept the fact that there's no more sweet dream for straight 5 hours..or late nite coffee with frenz etc..but new matter arise..I am keep worrying about the way i do things..is this the right way to hold her?..at this age, is it the right amount of milk?..is it too much?..these sort of questions keep worrying me..but of course..guidance from my parent do helps..sometime..hehe..i think for those who has their own children and extra sensitive grand parent might understand why did i say 'sometime'..

The third week..suddenly i feel like i am the expert..erm..i just do wut i feel right..and Alhamdulillah it turns out to be okay..just like any new things we encounter in life..the initial phase normally the most difficult..as soon as you get used to it, everything will fall into place..thats wut happen to me..on the third week i start enjoying my routine..but of course..there's a moment where you feel soooo tired and angry..my advice..back of a lil bit..fine some space for yourselves..a brief and quiet 10 minutes nap in your car is all you need..(thats work for me..and it might work for you)

Alhamdulillah..now alya is almost one and a half months old..she turned out to be a cute healthy baby..InsyaAllah i'll do my level best to raise her with lots of love and passion..Semoga Alya akan menjadi anak yang solehah dan muslimah sejati yang akan berbakti kepada agama, bangsa dan negara..Amin..

The Long Awaited Journey..

2007-08-28T19:13:00.000+08:00

Being a father is almost every man dream...as a proud married man, at the age of 26, i'm more than ready to be a father..its been almost two years of marriage..a lot of torture..(of course from the people around me..frenz..relatives..)..asking the same Q..Do u have a baby YET??..

Should i mad at them?..they might just trying to be friendly..but..deep inside..it hurts..every Q related to children burned my ears..i keep askin' to myself..when would i be a father?..Alhamdulillah the God Almighty 'heard' me..

In April 2007..finally i heard the news that really enlightened my day..my wife was 2 months pregnant..only God knows how happy i was..but..the happy moment only last for a few weeks..at week 12th of the pregnancy..God has taken away our 'child'..as a father, surely i feel so sad..but, as Muslim, I am grateful to God..everything happen for a reason..Only God knows BEST!!

Then, the MIRACLE happen..a week after my wife confinement period ends, Allah Almighty has give us a second chance..my wife has pregnant again!!..Thank you to Allah for giving us the strength to go thru the sad chapter of our life..and now bring the cheer back to us..

Alhamdulillah..now, my wife just gone thru the 16 weeks of pregnancy..our child bone structure and body development is tremendously good..to all readers, please pray with us..hopefully, we will finally be a complete family..Me and wife could be a father & mother..the long awaited journey might finally ends..

Panduan Pengurusan Jenazah

2007-08-25T13:32:00.000+08:00

4 perkara yang menjadi fardhu kifayah oleh orang-orang Islam yang hidup terhadap jenazah:

1. Memandikan jenazah
2. Mengkapankan jenazah
3. Menyembahyangkan jenazah
4. Mengkebumikan jenazah

"Jika salah seorang daripada orang yang hidup melakukan perkara di atas, maka tertunailah fardhu kifayah itu. Sebaliknya jika tidak dilaksanakan seluruh masyarakat di sekelilingnya menanggung dosa."

10 perkara yang perlu disediakan sebelum memandikan mayat:

1. Kain kapan: Ukuran kain kapan untuk mayat dewasa lelaki ialah 15 meter panjang dan 20 meter untuk dewasa perempuan.

2. Kapur Barus

3. Kayu cendana (gaharu)

4. Air mawar

5. Bunga

6. Sintok

7. Kemenyan (Setangi)

8. Minyak wangi

9. Sabun dan daun bidara

10. Sarung tangan

Cara memandikan mayat:

Memandikan mayat ialah sekurang-kurangnya dengan meratakan air ke seluruh tubuh badan mayat sehingga semua najis dibersihkan (hingga ke faraj bagi perempuan dan ke dalam kulub zakar bagi lelaki)

- Mandikan mayat di tempat yang tertutup. Ketika mayat dimandikan jangan dibiarkan orang ramai masuk mengerumuni jenazah kecuali orang yang memandikan dan petugasnya atau waris rapat si mati sahaja.

- Tanggalkan pakaian si mati dan tutup aurat si mati dengan kain atau sebagainya ketika dimandikan.
- Mayat hendaklah dibaringkan di atas sekeping papan atau diletakkan di tempat yang lebih tinggi dari lantai ketika dimandikan.
- Gunakan air tawar atau air masin yang sejuk untuk memandikan mayat. Tetapi jika air itu lalu sejuk bolehlah dicampur dengan sedikit air panas.
- Sebelum atau sesudah mayat dimandikan, jenazah hendaklah diwudukkan.

- Bersihkan semua najis yang terdapat pada tubuh si mati termasuk menekan perutnya untuk mengeluarkan najis.
- Terlentangkan mayat dan cuci kemaluannya dengan tangan kiri yang berbalut.
- Bersihkan pula gigi, mata, lubang hidung dan kedua-dua telinga mayat termasuk di celah-celah kuku.
- Basuh kepala dan janggut, sikat rambutnya dengan hati-hati supaya tidak gugur. Rambut yang gugur sebelum atau selepas dimandikan hendaklah dikapankan bersama-sama mayat.

Cara Menjirus Mayat

- Jirus perlahan-lahan dimulai daripada bahagian hadapan sebelah kanan tengkuk ke hujung jari kaki.
- Kemudian miringkan mayat ke sebelah kiri untuk menjirus bahagian kanan sebelum menjirus bahagian kiri.
- Semasa menjirus gosoklah dengan sabun atau sebagainya.

Sabda Rasulullah s.a.w bermaksud:
"Mandikanlah dia tiga kali atau lima kali atau lebih, jika kamu pandang baik lebih dari itu hendaklah dengan air serta daun bidara dan basuhan yang penghabisan sekali hendaklah dicampurkan dengan kapur barus".

- Jika selepas dimandikan mayat tersebut terdapat najis yang masih keluar, maka memadai dibersihkan najis itu tanpa memandikan semula.
- Lap mayat itu hingga kering dan dikafankan.
- Bacalah doa-doa yang sesuai.
- Setelah selesai, jenazah hendaklah disembahyangkan serta dikebumikan dengan segera.

Siapa yang berhak memandikan mayat?:

1. Mayat lelaki hanya boleh dimandikan oleh tukang mandi lelaki sahaja. Tidak boleh dimandikan oleh orang perempuan kecuali isteri dan mahramnya sahaja. Jika isteri dan mahramnya berada di sisi mayat, yang lebih berhak memandikan jenazah ialah isterinya.

2. Mayat perempuan hanya boleh dimandikan oleh tukang mandi perempuan sahaja. Tidak boleh dimandikan oleh orang lelaki kecuali suami dan mahramnya. Jika suami dan mahramnya berada di sisi mayat, yang lebih berhak memandikan jenazah ialah suaminya.

3. Jika berlaku seseorang lelaki meninggal dunia dan di sekelilingnya langsung tidak ada orang lelaki, maka cara memandikan mayat itu ialah dengan tayammum sahaja. Begitu juga sebaliknya jika seseorang perempuan meninggal dunia dan tidak ada orang perempuan lain.

4. Bagaimanapun mayat kanak-kanak lelaki atau perempuan boleh dimandikan oleh sama ada tukang mandi lelaki atau perempuan.

Mengkafan

- Selepas dimandikan, jenazah hendaklah dikapankan. Kain kapan hendaklah diambil daripada harta si mati. Jika simati tidak meninggalkan harta, hendaklah diambil daripada waris-waris si mati. Andainya tidak ada juga hendaklah diambil daripada Baitumal. Dan sekiranya Baitumal juga tidak ada, maka jatuhlah kewajipan itu ke atas orang-orang Islam lain yang mampu.

- Disunatkan kain kapan itu bewarna putih. Panjang kain kapan itu sekurang-kurangnya selapis dan menutup keseluruhan tubuh si mati. Sebaik-baiknya kain kapan itu sebanyak tiga lapis untuk si mati dewasa lelaki atau kanak-kanak.

- Manakala sebanyak lima lapis diperlukan sebagai kain kapan perempuan (dewasa dan kanak-kanak) yang menutupi seluruh tubuh badannya.

Sabda Rasulullah s.a.w bermaksud: "Hendaklah kamu memakai kain yang putih, kerana sesungguhnya kain putih itu kain yang sebaik-baik dan kapankalah mayat kamu dengan kain putih itu"

- Kain kapan sebaik-baiknya diusap atau diasapi dengan benda-benda yang harum seperti setanggi atau gaharu.

- Hamparkan kain itu selapis-selapis dan ditaburkan dengan benda-benda yang harum seperti serbuk kapur barus, kayu cendana, minyak kasturi atau lain-lain.

- Kemudian letakkan mayat di atas kain kapan itu dalam keadaan terlentang. Kedua-dua tangannya dirapatkan ke atas pusat dengan tangan kanan menutup tangan kiri (seperti dalam sembahyang) atau kedua-dua tangan diluruskan.

- Balutlah mayat itu dengan mengkapankannya dari sebelah kiri. Kain sebelah kanan ditindih ke sebelah kiri dan diikat dengan tiga atau lima ikatan. Tali ikatan itu dibuat dengan mengoyakkan sedikit daripada kain kapan tersebut.

- Selepas selesai dikapankan, jenazah hendaklah disembahyangkan.

Journey to Eternity..

2007-08-25T13:17:00.000+08:00

Life is soo fragile..thats wut i can conclude from the precious experience i gain this week..my beloved uncle passed-away on Tuesday nite..leaving a wife with 3 children (d' eldest only 15 years old).. people used to say.."Life begin at 40's" - Considering that my uncle died at the age of 45.. i dun think the 'phrase' is true!! (Al-Fatihah to my uncle soul)..

Life must go on.. it was his fate to die young..but to the people who been left behind..the long and lonely journey just get started..Good luck..

To me..getting closely involved in the arrangement of my late uncle funeral..it really opened my eyes.. am i ready to face the death ?..Did the person who i love & loved me would suffer if i'm not around?..that really borders me.. a lot.. yet.. i believe ..i shld start preparing for my 'absent' and make the people around me well prepared too..

Dun worry myself.. I believe.. Insya-Allah i'll live a long life.. but, i do think that the preparation shld start now..since..as human, we dun have the previlage to know the exact date of our death.. The preparation for the journey after death..('amalan')..and the preparation for the people who i will leave behind..MUST START NOW!!

As starting point.. i would share one of the most important thing which we usually take for granted..Remembering the death..

Death could happen anytime, anywhere and to anyone.. In my late uncle case..he died in his daughter (12 years old) arms.. Just imagine..the physycological impact to the daughter..

So.. i would say..its the best to remember the death & make ourselves prepared.. to 'see' death or to 'feel' death.. I would want to share the next chapter of my blog.. for us to be well prepared to 'see' death.. Chiow..

Jakarta..Here i Come..

2007-08-20T18:17:00.001+08:00

I hd gone thru a hectic yet exciting schedule last week.. for da third time i step my foot on foreign soil.. wut a great feeling..finally.. i had the chance to cherish 'Jakarta'..

I had been greated by a moderate yet bz airport when i reached Jakarta.. Soekarno-Hatta International Airport..no hectic event compared to my visit to Medan in 2005.. So, it was a great first impression..

By the time i jumped into the car, its already 2.50 p.m (Local Time)..feel great..it was my first experience travelling in Toyota Innova..cool car with a spacier and moderate interior..Then, i met my first nightmare.. The traffic jam..the local called it 'machet'... (After a few days i hd realise that the traffic jam are unavoidable scene in Jakarta).. Just imagine, it took me almost 2 hours for a journey less than 45 miles...

When i checked into the hotel..i'm a lil bit shocked.. for one night stay in a 3-stars rated hotel, it will cost you .. 300,000 Rp. equivalent to almost USD 40 (Excluding breakfast).. Anyway, I still paid the amount though..Furthermore, you credit card won't assist you a lot since the hotel will required you to pay a deposit of USD 200 for two nights stay..and they will straight away deduct the amount from your card..(weird right)..by the time u checked out, they will return the deposit money - room rate for 2 nights in CASH!!.. just imagine, suddenly u've to carry around a few hundred thousand rupiah in your pocket..funny..

I don't have any leisure time in Jakarta bcoz i was there to attend several business meeting..so, my travelling time (mostly stucked in traffic jam) is the time which i fully used to observe the local way of life..

Jakarta has 5 major province with 5 mayors and more that 15 milion population..with an ever increasing daily cost of living, the local has to depend solely on themselves to gain food or money..the government did helps but 'very' limited assistance..this is one of the cities which i could see the rich become richer and the poor people left unattended.. fortunately, indonesian people is born to be a fighter..their creativity is something to be proud of..they have skills in wooden craft, art, reflexology and other things that u might thing impossible.. Eventhough i could say that more than half of the pupulation stays in a shelter less than 60 square feet, (Under bridge & road flyovers, abandon building, along railways) yet, I could rarely meet a beggar..I did respect those people..

But, there also people who love to gain money the easy way..thru sex industry..the oldest industry in the world.. you could 'chater or rent' a very nice looking lady for one night from as low as USD 30 to USD 2,000.. and what make it worse, it's a common way of life even to the muslim..(If you knew the right source).. Still.. I dun blame them.. In a place with limited job offers..that might b the only thing that they could think of..to gain a penny..

Now, Later or Never..

2007-08-20T17:45:00.000+08:00

*20.08.2007 Great numbers for great event..yup..today is the day i start writing 'again'..i used to write a lot.. to myself.. back to my school years..papers and diaries are my sole mate..when i feel like crying..i'll wrote somethin' for myself..when i feel happy..i'll wrote again to myself..sorry myself..i had ignored you for quit a long time now..dun worry..it's pay back time.. :)

erm..wut to say..to those who nice enough to read wut i wrote..thanx a lot..i do appreciate your concern..for those who skip thru my pages..i do hope that u wd fine something usefull for yourselves..sooner or later..

I just wanna share my thought, experience and the most important thing..talk to myself again..